Ok sister. It’s time for some tough love. We all need it at one time or another and I think it’s about time we got around to it today.
We need to toughen the heck up. Yup. You heard me. Physically, spiritually, and socially, it’s time for us to toughen up.
Too often I am content with cruising along because it’s not as painful as busting my skinny jean clad butt. I’m traveling down my lane in life and I feel like it’s going pretty well, I’m checking off goals right and left and then out of no where, a big old stink pile of life hits me right upside the face. And I’m left shivering, confused and more than just a tad dazed. I mentioned a few weeks ago that I had been having a rough couple of weeks but that we have to take the opportunities provided to us in life before they’re completely gone. Well not only do we need to devour every opportunity like a fat kid eating funnel cake, we need to stay uncomfortable.
Jesus and Mimosas
After a little come to Jesus meeting with my parents over a Sunday brunch and mimosas, I came to the realization that I need to toughen up. I got frustrated a few weeks ago and that frustration just festered inside me until I realized I had become slightly complacent. It’s time to get serious about who I am as a businesswoman. I have set some incredibly lofty goals for myself and while I am well on my way to achieving them, I’m not going to become the superstar I want unless I toughen up. And that’s what we all want, right? To be superstars in our respective fields, whatever they may be. And if that isn’t our goal, we need to ask ourselves why? Why don’t you want to be the best of the best? What is holding us back from trying? And why aren’t we putting ourselves heart and soul into developing our talents?
It’s time to stop thinking of ourselves as just a college student, just an employee or just a…fill in the blank. What is your most secret, deepest desire and WANT? Don’t you dare give up on that lust. Grit your teeth and become obsessed with achieving your goal. It is almost expected as a 20-something girl that you will graduate college, enjoy some parties and make some good friends. What is NOT expected of us is to be single mindedly focused on becoming a businesswoman, on gaining as much knowledge of the world around you and becoming as successful as possible.
Let’s Get Obsessed With Becoming The Best
Let’s get obsessed. Let’s throw the stereotype of the ditzy girl who floats through life to the side and become consumed with becoming the best women we can be. The principles that guide businessmen and women can only aid us in our walk through life, even if we never have anything at all to do with “business.” Here are 4 ideas to help get you started!
· Wake up early in the morning. Most successful businessmen (and millionaires) do. Work out. Actually, don’t work out. Destroy yourself. Push yourself. People who are in shape are perceived to be dedicated because staying fit is a commitment. Feed your body the healthiest food possible. Drink lots of water.
· Always dress your best and present your best “you.” You never know WHERE you might meet a future business contact, employer, investor, lover, friend….who knows! Be ready to make a good impression on everyone you meet.
· Set a daily goal that allows you to be working towards your dream, whatever that may be.
· Read something every day that will lead to the edification of who you are as a person. Even if you’re insanely busy, read for at least 15-30 minutes before bed. I love fashion magazines as much as the next girl, but I’m talking real books, Doll. If you don’t know where to start, buy one of these, read it, apply it to your life and then move on to the next one!
Suggested Reading List
Excellence edited by J. Pincott
The Millionaire Next Door by Thomas J. Stanley and William D. Danko
The 4-Hour Workweek by Timothy Ferriss
The Bedside Baccalaureate edited by David Rubel
How To Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie
You can learn something from almost anyone and it doesn’t necessarily have to apply to your chosen field. Seek to be educated in all aspects of your life, and you won’t be able to help it, you will attract other educated and inspiring people to you like moths to a flame.
Girls Compete With Each Other, Women Uplift Each Other
We won’t get to the top unless we demand excellence from ourselves, and each other. I saw a quote the other day on Instagram and I instantly connected with it. It said “Girls compete with each other, women uplift each other.” It’s so true! So often we girls are more than willing to hate another girl on sight, just because we don’t know her. We have a tendency to be more willing to tear each other down than we are to lift each other up. Let’s quit the cycle together and be the change we want to see!
Encourage, befriend and help the women around you. Look for a woman you admire who has shown herself capable and ask her to mentor you. I don’t believe I would have achieved half the things I have in life if it wasn’t for the influence of some amazing mentors in my life. Look for younger girls around you who are interested in the same things you are, and be her big sister. Encourage her, be there for her and invest in her life.
We all have different gifts, strengths and weaknesses and when we band together and inspire one another to work harder, to aim higher and to never, ever give up, how can we fail?
I’m rooting for you, Doll!! Let’s toughen the heck up and become the very best we can be!
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xo xo Elizabeth